While most of us enjoy life with the goodness it offers us. There are times when we end up feeling gloomy and succumb to some serious blues. If this keeps happening with you, find yourself some solutions and get over the dumps that push you down.
You will be surprised by the difference it creates. Believe in the minor acts and get your life back on track.
Here I share some back tracks toward a happy feeling.
Get to the source, read it yourself and find out where it actually dropped down.
Vent it out with someone who makes you feel better.
Watch something that adds to your purpose, or just the things that brings you joy.
Cook yourself a meal, cherish it.
Go for a walk and just observe yourself, your breath, your body, or the birds in the sky.
Listen to music of your choice.
Re-read the quotes, books, poems that instil calm and help you gain back a normal state.
Clean your surroundings.
Delve in your hobby or find one for yourself.
Take a nap (without any regrets)
Take a warm water shower.
Doodle, they don’t need to look pretty or make sense always.
Visit a place or your happy place, where you find that connect.
Write a letter to someone who just stood by you, even if it is you yourself.
Do some headbanging, shake yourself out of it.
And most importantly, allow yourself to experience it. Embrace it. And let it pass. 🙂
You must have heard the term “pay attention” since childhood on different instances. Ever wondered – why are you so distracted? So much so that you find it hard to get yourself to focus on the work.
Often, you must have read on topics such as productivity, getting goals accomplished but often missed the essence which lies in attention management.
Attention management is a simple practice of having control over your distractions in the present, and maximising your flow to focus on your potential.
Attention is integral part of personal growth as it has a lot to determine your experiences both inside and outside your home. It helps in a great way to get you closer to accomplishing what you want for yourself. As simple as, preparing your favourite dish, requires your attention.
Attention is like muscles in your body, using them in the right way is important. It puts you in track of your time.
Practising attention consistently is a good way to work around it. As it gets you in a practised routine and get you consistent results.
While looking at the consistency, progressing in it also creates an impact. Notice the time span you are investing in maintaining your attention. No hard and fast rule. You can increase it gradually over a period of time or maintain a fixed one; whatever works for you.
When you lose your attention, noticing that very moment where you lost it, when you lost it, how you lost it, in itself helps you. Noticing and correcting your focus, can be a simple mindfulness technique which can be applied in this case.
Taking control of your attention is the beginning step which can help you to manage your attention in a long run. Take control of your life.
If you wish to read more on it, you can read Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence, psychologist Daniel Goleman. He delves into the science of attention.
As it is often said that, once you hack your mind, almost everything is possible.
You have goals, dreams, aspirations but something or the other keeps getting in your way and make that journey to reach your destination difficult.
If you begin to look at the cons they would always outweigh your pros on those moments. And, I will be honest with you here and say that I have been there and I absolutely resonate with your feelings.
I began with small steps to work on my mindset and it helped me get through.
I am not going to say that it was a cake walk because, it was not. Not at all. It takes time and as I always say lot to do with the process. It takes efforts to change thoughts and beliefs that are so deeply rooted and practised over a zillion times to this day.
Look at your thoughts One of the first step to begin on personal development. Everything you do in life, achievements, failures are shaped by your thoughts and the thoughts in your mind. Goes by this sequence – Thoughts-Feelings-Actions-Results When you change your thoughts, the entire process changes.
Identify your thoughts Look at the above sequence and identify your current thoughts. Ask yourself- – Is this thought positive/negative? – If negative, what can I think instead? – How does that change in thought makes me feel?
Embrace and appreciate It is really important for your personal growth that you take sometime and embrace and appreciate yourself. It is only when we appreciate, we move further in the journey. If you forget it, keep reminders in your phone and practice that actively.
People vs your mindset Often, you see yourself getting influenced by people around you. Be mindful of the people you are bringing in your life. Choose quality over quantity always.
Little changes, but full impact. Try for yourself and I am here with you in your journey.
Looking to this day, the last month of 2019 has begun. And there is nothing more effective than asking oneself effective questions. Sitting and planning about the upcoming month sometimes help, if not always.
Every month is like a new beginning and almost feels like a tabula-rasa. There is a lot you can achieve by just setting some small goals and habits for oneself, just like your own monthly bucket list.
Here are some questions from my list which can help you to uncover and reflect on how you would like your last month of the year to be.
How would I like to feel during this month? Simple question can help you to bring in a great check on your feelings and help you uncover how you want to feel. It will help you to prioritise on the things or aspects of your life and of course on the parts that will get you closer to how you would like to feel.
Where would I like to be by the end of this month? It does not have to be revolving around achievements always. You can of other aspects such as your personal growth, a business idea you have been working upon, the actions you would like to take for your life or just a small get away to give yourself a break.
What would make this month accomplishing for me? It really depends on what makes you feel more satisfied in life. It is important that you do not involve in self doubt but instead look at the things you would like to accomplish for yourself, even if is learning how to drive, or a musical instrument. Anything that makes you feel happy and satisfied in life.
What advice I would like to give myself for this month? Many of us actively involve in giving others advice. Why give ourselves a backseat then? This is a new practice I started this year and believe me it helps me. All of us have a good share of experiences and on the days we feel low, words help. My last month advice to myself was – “I will give myself a chance to rise today.” Find what helps you.
What is my budget for this month? Give yourself a set plan and manage in that amount. At the end of the day, we should all save for the days when we just want a break for ourselves. And as grown ups we should sustain independently. I usually take out a monthly expenditure and deposit the rest of my savings.
I hope this helps you in some way. Go, give it a try!
Before beginning to work on punctuality, it is essential that you understand what is making you late. Watch yourself and your routine carefully to identify what really is making you late. DeLonzor author of Never Be Late Again says – many late people — including herself — are likely to have an aversion to leaving the house. To combat this she uses a mantra of sorts: “When I catch myself doing this, I’ll snap or clap and say ‘This can wait.”
This article is not here to make you feel bad about your lateness or to say lateness makes you the worst of all. It is just to help you to work it out, if this is one.
Firstly, If you want to begin with identifying, have a look at DeLonzor who identifies fourtypes of persistently late people
The Crisis Maker
I am refraining to crowd this article with too much information so you can go ahead find your type.
Secondly, your motivation is with you. Find. Find Find. because it helps when you have a reason to be on time, it can be anything. I can give you an example here – Reach to work early and head home early to spend time with yourself, your family, or your pet.
Thirdly, begin with declutter. The thing is we unnecessarily clutter our lives with all things, thoughts and what not. Take an example of your cupboard, how easy it gets when you keep things in place, you find them early.
And, lastly, take responsibility. Know what makes you late, it can even be spending too much time in front of the cupboard every morning just to finalise what you’d want to wear today. Take notice of where you are investing too much time where it is not even required. Decide it the night before or wake up early.
End note – You are too amazing to put a blame on yourself for being late. Cultivate an attitude of punctuality, even if it is 10 minutes in prior.
Subconscious – the word that immediately captures our attention.
Subconscious is a part of mind placed right under your conscious. It works silently, just as the back coding behind your computer screen. It closely works with accepting or rejecting information, and helping you form your perception. Every experience acts like a sponge into your subconscious. It absorbs the detail and information.
All the detail and information that was absorbed gets utilized in a way that helps us to work effectively in the present moment. Our subconscious also referred to as “auto pilot” has immense power to control and navigate our day to day lives, even our preferences perhaps. From the kind of food we eat, music we like, career preferences to the actions we take when faced by stressful events.
It plays a vital role in forming our perceptions. While you were a child you only accepted what was fed into our systems, but as you grew up, you started understanding life differently, and that is how some of the learning created conflicts. For instance – you accepted the when you were told as a child that you can not do this task on your own. As you grew up your immediate reaction to something would be, I can not do this work because I might be incompetent at it. Henceforth, let me give up.
See the thing is, our beliefs are shaped on the basis of your programming, it is similar to how an app functions, just how all the information that is there on the screen consists of a back coding behind it. Often influenced by the people you are surrounded with, environment, texts you read, or perhaps learning in any other format.
So, what can be done , can you never change or restructure. Well! definitely, you can. The subconscious is always working. Though we must understand that what was learnt might take some time to restructure. Although, once you get the information and practice consistently. You can rewire and benefit ourselves.
Here is how:
When you are visualizing the pictures through your mind, the subconscious mind can capture and respond to it. It is a great way to empower and reprogram your mind with uplifting and positive images.
Try practicing for at least 10-15 minutes on daily basis. Simply close your eyes and try to bring attention to the experiences you want to have in your life. It can be visualizing images of a fulfilling relationship, a beautiful home, a dream project or anything.
Most importantly, when you are visualizing, try to emit positive emotions, emit love and gratitude towards the experience. Allow peace to flow through you.
You see environment plays an important role in becoming. Try to keep keen notice that your environment is filled with people who are successful, who are filled with positive and growth mindset. Do not waste your time or energy on something that is not serving you with either one of these.
You many not necessarily seek out for people, it is of course one way. But the other ways of doing it can be listening to courses online, read about people who inspire you and begin.
I know it may sound fictional to you as you read this, but there have been overwhelming research on brainwaves and the results have been quite positive. The audio recordings are likely to have altering brainwave effects.
It relies on what you are doing and fall into specific frequencies.
The reprogramming occurs by creating a receptive medium for installing positive messages.
Ps. I have tried linking some audios for you here. If someone has better audios than the ones linked, please share in the comments below.
“The way to get rid of darkness is with light; the way to overcome cold is with heat; the way to overcome the negative thought is to substitute the good thought. Affirm the good, and the bad will vanish.” – Jospeh Murphy
We all keep looking for sources to work on ourselves constantly. In this constant seeking process, we look at pages of the books, philosophies, religious books, and sometimes even in the conversations we have in our lives.
Today, the generation is upgrading and updating itself every single moment, then why take a back seat, rather make notes and build something meaningful and magical. On the simplest of things to most debated and searched topics such as how to save money, how to purchase property, etc, etc.
Here is some motivation for you to go look out find what resonates.
“Whatever your mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” – Napoleon Hill
“If you want to be tougher mentally, it is simple: Be tougher. Don’t meditate on it” – Jocko Willink
“Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs.” – Farrah Gray
“We are the impossibility in an impossible universe.” – Ray Bradbury
“You don’t need anybody to tell you who you are or what you are. You are what you are!” – John Lennon
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else, is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
“My thoughts are stars I can’t fathom into constellations.” – John Green
“If you are working on something that you really care about, you don’t have to be pushed. The vision pulls you.” – Steve Jobs
“We shall rise insensibly, and reach the tops of the everlasting hills, where the winds are cool and the sight is glorious.” – Paul Kalanithi
End note – Your motivation begins to soar when you begin to believe in the possibility of growth.